The Hips Don’t Lie: How to Release Stored Emotions
Mind-body connection.
I’m sure you’ve heard of it. It’s the link between a person's thoughts, feelings, and how the body physically reacts. Much like how you can get a stomachache if you’re nervous about a presentation you have to give to the big wigs at work. Or your palms get sweaty when you run into your ex at the grocery store.
The mind-body connection is most commonly recognized with stress. Medical research estimates that as much as 90% of all doctor’s visits are stress related. Patients reporting ailments such as headaches, stomach issues, sleep problems and chest pain (to name a few) clearly indicate how your emotions can make you sick.
We may agree that emotions can affect the body, but it’s also indicated that emotions can be stored in the body.
Emotions are technically energy in motion. When we experience trauma, or even a negative emotion that is unprocessed, it gets stored energetically in the physical body. I’ll go deeper into that in another blog post, but for now, let’s talk specifically about the hips storing emotions. Because Shakira was right after all, the hips don’t lie.
The hips are a place where we store our deepest vulnerabilities. They are kind of like a filing system for all our unpleasant memories and suppressed shit.
I like to look at things from different ‘lenses’ because my inner skeptic sometimes needs science to substantiate things.
Tight Hips: Physical Lens
From a physical perspective, the hip joint is the largest weight bearing joint in the body. It is surrounded by muscles, ligaments, and tendons. It literally supports us on a daily basis and helps us maintain our balance. Aside from holding our weight, the hips are prone to tightness from prolonged sitting. We must admit that in our society of long work hours at a computer, driving, watching TV, etc. the hips are often in a flexed position, which can make them tight. Structurally, if you have experienced pregnancy and/or childbirth, the physical changes that occur during this time (physically and emotionally) can take a toll on the hips and pelvis.
Tight Hips: Emotional Lens
Emotions, much like chocolate cake, go straight to your hips. Specifically, emotions related to relationships. When we are stressed, overwhelmed, or scared, we often unconsciously tighten up. This can present as clenching your jaw, crossing your arms or legs to ‘close off’, or retreat to the fetal position (curl up) as a protective response. From an evolutionary standpoint, our hips activate to run from danger; hence the ‘fight or flight’ response. When these muscles tense up repeatedly, they shorten. And so, if the tension is never fully released (or processed) the tension along with the emotion, is trapped.
Tight Hips: Spiritual Lens
If you are into yoga or meditation, you may have heard of the chakra system. The word chakra is Sanskrit and translates to ‘wheel’ or disc’. There are seven chakras, or spinning energetic wheels, that start at the base of the spine and ascend to the top of your head. Each chakra corresponds to major organs, nerves, and areas of our energetic body that affect our emotional and physical wellbeing. The hips are located in the second chakra, referred to as the Sacral chakra. The sacral chakra is linked to sexuality, creativity, and inspiration. Home of the reproductive organs, it makes sense that there is a correlation to sensuality, relationships, and emotions. A sacral chakra imbalance may manifest as hip or back pain, feeling jealous or insecure, or feeling closed off or emotionally unavailable.
Hip opening and releasing the tension… Ready for a flood?
If you’ve ever participated in a yoga class, you are likely familiar with hip opening poses. Remember the hip joint is unique, not limited to just flexion and extension. The hips move in circular motions as well. Therefore ‘opening the hips’ refers to any stretch that lengthens any of the 22 muscles that cross the hip. Yes, there’s that many.
When I think about the hips storing emotions and attending a yoga class, my imagination gets the best of me. I envision a flood gate opening from my hip joint; shadows and grief pouring out, drowning the class with my tears as I sit sobbing in pigeon pose. Will I ever be welcomed back again? Luckily, this has never happened but many report feeling an emotional release and even shedding some tears. When you allow your body to relax into a pose and release stored tension, you can open up wounds from the past.
Whether or not you know where these emotions are coming from, releasing them is a good thing. Society teaches us at a young age to toughen up, not cry, and shove the feelings aside. But that’s not how we heal. Suppressing anything causes problems. Let this be your permission slip to open up and leave it all on your mat. Your teacher will surely understand.
How to release stored tension
Deep-tissue hip opening yoga postures can release physical and emotional tension in the hips. If you are skilled at suppressing emotions and are not currently used to stretching, go slow and go easy on yourself. Welcome what comes up with curiosity. Practice acceptance. Breathe. Embrace the idea that leaning into discomfort and sitting with the pain a little bit, is the practice.
Below are some of my favorite hip openers.
Pigeon Pose
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Mermaid pose
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Deep Low Lunge
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Cow Face Pose
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Aside from yoga stretches, here are some other ways to consider releasing stored emotions.
Cry, scream, yell into a pillow
Go for a walk, run, or swim
Do some cardio, dance, hit a punching bag
Practice yoga
Meditate on releasing the emotion
Try reiki or acupuncture
Journal and let your internal voice speak
Talk with a therapist
Do something creative, listen to music, be in nature
Trapped emotions could be holding you back from reaching your full potential. As you lean in and learn to release these emotions, remember that healing is not linear. It is indeed a process. But a process that is worth it. You are deserving of living a fulfilled, joyful life. Remember to be kind to yourself, and to your hips.
Peace, love and healing
XOXO
Thanks for reading! If you’d like to learn more about the Chakra system, check out my pdf guide below.